Breaking Old Traps and Building a Life That Fits You
We all have moments when we wonder why life keeps repeating the same challenges.
Ever noticed patterns like these?
- You choose partners who treat you poorly — even though you promised yourself “never again.”
- You work so hard to make others happy, yet you feel invisible or unappreciated.
- You push yourself toward perfection, but no achievement ever feels “enough.”
- You feel anxious the moment someone gets close, afraid they will leave.
- You avoid conflict at all costs, then silently resent everyone.
- You overthink every conversation, convinced you did something wrong.
Learn what Schema Therapy is and how it helps break lifelong emotional patterns like abandonment, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and toxic relationship cycles. Discover how this powerful therapy heals childhood wounds and builds healthy adult functioning. |
You know what hurts you —
You see the pattern —
But somehow… it happens again.
If this sounds familiar, Schema Therapy can help you understand why these patterns exist and how to finally break free from them.
What is Schema Therapy?
Schema Therapy is a powerful approach designed to help people understand their life story — where emotional wounds began, how they shaped beliefs, and why those beliefs still control choices today.
Imagine your mind like a house built during childhood.
Some rooms are warm and welcoming — joy, curiosity, security.
But other rooms were built in times of fear, loneliness, or rejection.
As adults, we may still be living in that old house…
even though our life has changed and we have the tools to build new rooms.
Schema Therapy helps you:
- Revisit the old house with compassion
- Repair what was damaged
- Rebuild the structure so it finally supports the life you want today
It is not only about talking and analyzing.
It is about healing, feeling, and re-learning what a safe and fulfilling life actually looks like.
🎯 What Are Schemas?
The Emotional Traps That Keep You Stuck
Schemas are traps our minds create when important emotional needs were not fully met while growing up:
the need to feel loved, safe, seen, respected, capable, or free to be yourself.
For example:
- If you rarely felt accepted, the trap may whisper:
“There must be something wrong with me.” - If people were unpredictable or left, the trap says:
“Don’t trust — you’ll be abandoned.” - If love depended on performance, the trap demands:
“Be perfect or be rejected.”
Even when you become stronger, wiser, and more successful, these traps keep pulling you back.
They influence who you choose, how you react, and what you believe you deserve.
Schemas are not your fault.
They were survival strategies.
But they are outdated — and you deserve the freedom to step out of the trap.
🔄 Changing Your Life Template
From Old Survival Patterns to New Ways of Living
We all have a life template — a hidden set of rules we follow without noticing:
- Who we trust
- How we love
- When we speak up
- What we tolerate
- What we think we deserve
This template was created long before you had the power to choose differently.
Schema Therapy helps you update the template so that your future is not a repeat of your past.
How?
1️⃣ Understanding the trap
Recognizing old patterns and the fears behind them
2️⃣ Feeling the wound
Allowing the emotions that were once too overwhelming to be processed in a safe space
3️⃣ Challenging the story
Questioning the beliefs that no longer serve you
4️⃣ Trying new behaviors
Saying “no,” setting boundaries, choosing healthier relationships
— and learning that nothing terrible happens when you do
4️⃣And healing the old wounds
Correcting emotional responses while re-experiencing the moments the schemas were born and/or reinforced
Through this journey, your Healthy Adult self becomes stronger:
the part of you that is wise, calm, kind, confident, and capable of protecting and nurturing you.
Your past becomes a chapter — not a prison.
🤝 What to Expect in Schema Therapy
- A deeper understanding of why you feel and act the way you do
- Emotional techniques that heal the younger parts of you still hurting
- Practical strategies to build healthier habits and connections
- A supportive therapeutic relationship where your needs matter
It’s not always easy — healing rarely is.
But it is empowering.
And life becomes genuinely different.
💪 Who Can Benefit?
Schema Therapy is especially effective for:
✅ Repeating toxic relationships
✅ Low self-esteem & shame
✅ Anxiety rooted in fear of rejection
✅ Chronic unhappiness / emptiness
✅ People-pleasing or perfectionism
✅ Childhood emotional neglect
✅ Trauma and deep emotional triggers
If you’ve ever thought…
🗣️ “Something is wrong with me.”
Schema Therapy is here to show you:
Nothing is wrong with you — something happened TO you. And it can be healed.
🌱 How I Can Help
As a therapist trained in Schema Therapy, I, Atena Salaree, will:
✅ Help you identify the traps that keep repeating
✅ Support and protect the parts of you that were once helpless
✅ Challenge the harsh inner voices that shame or limit you
✅ Teach you new tools for emotional balance and healthy relationships
✅ Provide a safe and caring environment where real change can happen
I walk beside you —
not as a judge, not as a distant expert —
but as someone who believes in your potential to grow, love, and thrive.
Together, we can:
✨ heal the old wounds
✨ rewrite the unhealthy life patterns
✨ and shape a future that finally feels like yours
You are not broken.
You adapted to survive.
And now, you have the right — and the ability —
to build a life that truly supports who you are.
You’re Not Stuck — Just Following an Old Story
It’s time to write a better one
You deserved safety, love, and acceptance back then.
You still deserve them today.
If you’re ready to explore Schema Therapy — or want support in breaking long-standing patterns — I’m here to walk beside you on this journey.
📩 Contact me today to start your healing process. Book a Session